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HAPPY from Around the World


April 16, 2014 at 7:24 pm Leave a comment

TEDxManhattanBeach Talks

TEDx_2013_v1B2Want to see what all the excitement was about?

TEDxManhattanBeach Talks

Here are all the talks from the 2013 TEDxManhattanBeach Conference.

We all have favorites. What inspired you the most?

March 22, 2014 at 8:34 pm Leave a comment

Mirror What You Admire

Mirror What You Admire

February 26, 2014 at 5:33 pm 1 comment

Open Letter to Mom’s

“If every mom in the world knew how awesome they were,                                         every problem in the world would be fixed!”

If you’re a mom, or have one, you gotta watch this! Kid President offers easy, useful advice that will make you think, laugh and cry. I love this!

February 6, 2014 at 6:50 pm Leave a comment

Let’s Bridge the Parenting Gap Together

322957-Generation-1326819400-194-640x480I want to start a conversation today about parenting in the transformational paradigm we live in circa 2014.

Many of us are being called into humanitarian service, to live from a higher consciousness than our Silent Generation/Traditionalist parents, to recognize that we are all connected, and to do our best to come from a place of love instead of fear, of acceptance and camaraderie.

As a parent for 10 years now, I have done my best to impart these thought patterns to my children. I have tried to guide them rather than force them, to appeal to their intrinsic desires. I have encouraged them to use their voices to be heard, to feel validated and loved — to know that they are never alone and to give them tools to ground themselves in who they are. Despite my efforts, they have not bypassed the drama that can come with childhood.

391787_10151391707400816_598351814_nIn my darkest parenting hours I try to remember that they are on their own journey, and it is not for me to judge…but really? How can I not get frustrated with their choice of friends or association with people who don’t make them feel good about themselves? Or bothered by their choice not to bathe or brush their teeth without a fight, or their choice not to turn in their homework assignments or study for an exam? Isn’t it still my job to deliver them into adulthood with all the life skills they need to survive in the real world, regardless of spirituality? (I often tell myself, “She won’t walk down the aisle wearing dirty underwear.”) And what if I want them not just to survive, but to thrive? To experience the magic that living in the flow of life has to offer. Is it not up to me, as a transformational parent, to help them learn how to tap into that flow?

I started reading Marianne Williamson’s new book, A Year of Miracles. Today, divinely enough, I read,

“It is not my job to monitor anyone’s journey, to know what’s right or wrong for others, or to try to control their behavior. My salvation lies in deep acceptance of people exactly as they are, that I might know the inner peace that such acceptance brings. Amen.”

Here is my quagmire friends — I fully believe this principle when it comes to the adults in my life, but is this how I should interact with my daughters? Not monitor their lives, help them know what’s right or wrong, or control their behavior to some degree?

I have no answers or suggestions today really, simply an inquiry, an examination. How do we blend transformational principles (some may even say ideals) with real world scenarios when it comes to our children?

540773_350377488387999_1908534520_n.jpg?width=403&height=400Deepak Chopra says, “The deepest desire in a parent’s heart is to see one’s child achieve success in life, yet how many of us realize that the most direct way to success is through spirit? In our society we don’t usually make that connection–quite the opposite. We teach our children how to survive, how to behave in order to earn our approval, how to defend themselves, how to compete, how to persist against disappointment, obstacles, and setbacks. Although believing in God is often considered a good thing, spirit has traditionally been set apart from success in daily life. This is a mistake, and it has had a profound effect on all our lives, from childhood on. Our responsibility as parents is therefore to place our children firmly on the journey of spirit. This is the best thing we can do to ensure their success in life, better than giving them money, a secure home, or even love and affection. I ask you to consider this spiritual notion of parenting, different though it may be from how you see your role now.”

He offers these seven practical principles to teach our children, for them to carry in their hearts and minds.

First Law:  Everything is possible. 

Second Law:  If you want to get something, give it. 

Third Law:  When you make a choice, you change the future. 

Fourth Law:  Don’t say no–go with the flow. 

Fifth Law:  Every time you wish or want, you plant a seed. 

Sixth Law:  Enjoy the journey. 

Seventh Law:  You are here for a reason. 

Deepak says, “A child raised with spiritual skills will be able to answer the most basic questions about how the universe works; she will understand the source of creativity both within and outside herself; she will be able to practice non-judgment, acceptance, and truth, which are the most valuable skills anyone can possess for dealing with other people; and she will be free from the crippling fear and anxiety about the meaning of life that is the secret dry rot inside the hearts of most adults, whether they can admit it or not.”


I love these seven principles. (In fact, I’m going to type them up and put them in their room…How The Universe Works!) But will this help them brush their teeth without an argument? I can’t help but feel a gap here between the physical world I live in and the one I believe is possible.

What are some ways you bridge the gap between your spiritual principles and your everyday experiences with your children? Let’s see if we can collaborate and create some tangible practices we can use during this evolutionary parenting transition. After all, we are in this together.

Love and blessings,


January 28, 2014 at 7:51 pm Leave a comment

How to Start the Conversations That Lead To Change

Making real change is a process. Starting that process with a simple conversation can lead to connection and understanding. Sally Kohn searches for common ground with her political foes by focusing on the compassion and humanity in everyone. Watch how she does it.

January 27, 2014 at 9:46 pm Leave a comment

Gang Up for Good

Billboard_Mean-Stinks_Follow-Us_LargeI am so excited to have found his campaign…Secret’s Mean Stinks. If you have young girls in your life, check out their website to watch videos worth sharing, download posters and tip sheets, hear expert advice, and to get connected to a campaign causing positive change. I’m painting my pinky blue today!

December 10, 2013 at 10:40 pm Leave a comment

TEDxManhattanBeach Invites Collaboration

imagesHave you ever attended a TED or TEDx conference? I attended my first last year and it changed my life. It changed my thinking about education. It changed my thinking about what is possible for our children. It changed the way I look at things. So imagine my delight when I had the opportunity to collaborate on the team creating this year’s TEDx conference in my local city?

After months of prepping, coordinating and coaching, I helped present TEDxManhattanBeach’s 2013 Conference Imagine That!  to a sold out audience. Attendees were treated to talks that came at creativity from all different angles. It truly was inspirational. But the biggest thing I walked away with was this notion of collaboration. Dr. Marco Villa, project manager for the Hyperloop, invited us all to get involved. Bill Welser from the RAND Corporation, encouraged many of us to help create planetary defense tools to destroy the asteroid coming to earth someday. Tattoo Artist turned inventor, Fred Giovannitti, encouraged us all to lend our talents to an eco-issue that means something to us and not to let our position in life stand in our way. Even comedy writer and Modern Family producer, Dunny Zuker, invited us to flex our comedy muscle and laugh together.

The common thread in each of these amazing talks was that we need each other. Each one of us brings a skill set to the table that is useful. I loved Bill Welser’s example when he pointed out that the Apollo missions were not going to happen using engineers alone. We needed behavioral scientists, nutritionists, physiologists, and a multitude of other –ists and -ologists to work with the rocket scientists and engineers in order to put together that successful program that ultimately made it to the moon and back. It wasn’t a one-dimensional problem and neither is the challenge of dealing with any one of the issues facing us today. Charlene Spretnak, author and relational thinker, shared evidence that we really are all connected, thus driving home the point that working together, collaborating, is how we’re going to not only survive, but thrive in the decades ahead.

I was walking home from school yesterday with my family when one of our neighbors thanked me for working on TEDxManhattanBeach. It didn’t stop there. Throughout the day people acknowledged what an inspiration this year’s conference was, and expressed their gratitude that I lent my talents to make it happen.  I can’t tell you what an awesome feeling it was to know that I made a difference on such a grand scale. It has always been my dream to impact large audiences in a meaningful way — to inspire them to their full potential and to incite love and connection, and I didn’t have to do it all by myself! I was able to make my childhood dream come true by collaborating with a great group of people, each lending their own talents and gifts to the effort.

The fulfillment of my dream certainly didn’t look how I’d always imagined it, but like artist and architect, Alison Wright reminded us last weekend, it’s not what you look at but what you see that matters.

November 19, 2013 at 8:42 pm 2 comments

Celebrating Creativity

Imagine ideas that take you on an unexpected journey—a journey that inspires, disrupts, educates, and entertains.  Imagine a day when ordinary people share extraordinary stories and creativity abounds. Imagine that!

Do you enjoy TED videos and TEDx events? Then join us November 16th. We have curated a group of live speakers who will inspire and inform you.







October 7, 2013 at 6:56 pm Leave a comment

Help Shape the Female Leaders of Tomorrow

October 7, 2013 at 6:42 pm 1 comment

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Shelby L. Phillips

As an intuitive transformational messenger, a communicative wife of nearly 30 years, and an open-hearted mother of two, I take pleasure in telling good news stories, connecting people to the eight dimensions of well-being, and inspiring us to love ourselves and each other because life really is worth celebrating! Find out more about me at


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